The Great Work/Life Divide…

Do you ever feel sometimes like you are holding your breath?
That you’ll let it out again when this thing is done, or that thing is done?
I wonder what makes us feel that way?
It’s maybe the stage in life that we find ourselves, or the crazy, fast paced society that we live in.  Perhaps it is work, or family, or even just ourselves applying the pressure.  Regardless, it is very hard to just let go and breathe.

I wonder has this just become a state of mind now, so innate that we don’t realise it even.  A nation, a world, of breath holders.

Any working parent will have felt the pull, the guilt, when they leave their little ones to go earn and make provision for their future.  The tears at the nursery door, the missed first words, and steps, and moments.  Believe me, I know, I’ve been there.

Or the job that takes over everything else, so much so that you can’t remember the last time you actually slept, and stretched, and smiled.  I’ve been there too.

And it sounds so morbid, put like that, doesn’t it?

Striking the balance between work and life is difficult.  They are two very wobbly stools that we often fall between.  Of course I’m sure there are those that do it beautifully, in fact I know there are, but in my experience something usually tends to suffer.

When I left my job a few years ago, it was in a blaze of glory.  A quick, knee-jerk, irrational decision.  I was unhappy, finding it difficult to keep all the balls in the air.  I have always been an over achiever, a people pleaser, a perfectionist some might say.  Mr M’s term for it is somewhat different – I’m sure you can imagine.  But the feeling of just not doing it right niggled at me. I was too divided, spread too thin.
And so I left. And then I panicked. 
What about the huge financial implications?  Would I make it through a whole week, let alone a month, a year, at home with three children under 5?  There are always, always worries.

Leaving work is not a possibility for some, nor a desire for others, and in some cases it isn’t even the issue in the first place.  I understand that completely. 
I guess the moral of my story is just to take a moment, think what little changes would tip the balance in life’s favour.  Start small, choose life.

And breathe.

E x

For any Grey’s Anatomy fans, in my head this is read in Meredith’s voice, voice-over style.  I told Mr M and he laughed out loud.  Read it again- do you hear it too??

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  1. January 24, 2014 / 4:43 pm

    Very wise words Emma. And certainly something for us all to think about. Not easy giving up work but its a small sacrifice to live and content ourselves by having less (in material terms) to give that quality time to bringing up your children, and devoting to family life, which is invaluable!
    Loving your blog. Keep up the good work! Victoria xxx

    • January 25, 2014 / 11:23 am

      Thankyou so much Victoria! I think all of us sometimes fall into the trap of letting work take over, don’t we? Sometimes it’s just some down-time and a bit of fun that suffers-we are a conscientious generation!! Thanks so much again for your wee comment, I really appreciate it! E x

  2. January 25, 2014 / 9:55 am

    Hi Emma,I know I am a fair bit older than you but I have been a mother since my early 20’s and chose to stay at home when my children were born. I suppose it really was a case of not wanting to hand them over to someone else as we moved to Dublin from Cork for my husband’s job and I felt a bit strange at first.It has worked out great and I did get part time work in between when they were a bit older which suited our routine! I am sure it will turn out great for you and your family:)
    ~Anne xx

    • January 25, 2014 / 11:32 am

      Aww, thankyou Anne. So far so good with us. I have a new-found respect for stay at home mums too-in some respects it is more challenging than my job ever was, but my focus is fixed now and, for me, that eases the pressure. I have total admiration for those that do it all. I have some amazing friends that make it look so easy! Thanks so much for you wee comment, I really appreciate it! E x

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