Fake it til’ you make it…

I was returning something in a shop the other day and was taken aback by the shop assistant who served me.  Now I know what you’re thinking.  Was she rude? Grumpy? Did she avoid eye contact, or chat to a colleague throughout the transaction?  Actually, the total opposite.  She was polite, courteous.  Chatty without overstepping.  She looked happy in her job, and I walked away feeling a little bit brighter too.

And it occurred to me that we really do affect those around us, even those that we don’t know very well, or at all.  Just by being us we can make or break someone’s day.

Now human nature dictates that we can’t be happy 24/7, 365 days a year.  We all have our weary moments, moments of frustration or upset or just plain anger.  But a smile costs nothing, isn’t that the saying? Do I have that right?

A few weeks ago Mr M and I took the kiddos for a scoot around a park nearby.  The park in question backs on to a hospital, and is used by the residents (‘inmates’ my Granda would have called them) for their daily constitutional.  The sweetest little old man, on his Zimmer, walked past us at one point, and his face lit up at the sight of our raucous, giggling tearaways.  And my face lit up too.
Amazing that – the infectious power of Happy.

I’m sure there is some hippy dippy self-help book out there that tells you how to achieve inner joy.  Maybe I should read it.  I’m pretty sure in there it would tell you to surround yourself with people you love, do things you love to do, cuddle kittens and practice Bikram yoga.
But at some point most days, the people I love drive me crazy.  I have no time to do the things I love to do.  And I’ve never been a big cat, or exercise, fan. 
But you know what?  Under this rain washed, anxious, insecure, OCD-prone exterior, I am completely aware of my blessings.  Maybe it’s deep deep down some days, but I’m pretty sure the joy is definitely there.

So on those days I’m going to fake it. Turn my frown upside down.  Be vulnerable, let people see my Happy.  And maybe, even for a second, even on one of those awful days, they might find their Happy too.

E x

A little look at Little Wood #3 tomorrow, and it’s the kitchen.  It’s a good one, even if I do say so myself, so grab your coffee and call in for a visit – we’re open all day!

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  1. February 27, 2014 / 10:09 pm

    Hi hunny, thank you soooo much for linking this post up to Share With Me. it’s one of my favorite and something I completely one hundred percent live by. If you are surround by positive happy people you too become more positive and happy. I promise. People that smile and laugh a lot will live longer I guarantee it. Like you said we are all human and have our bad days. I tend to forewarn Mr P when I am having one and hide away until I can pick myself up and go out with a smile. No use in spreading unhappiness being out and about. I love that the shop lady made your day. I always think if you don’t love something change it. Because life is too short. Or look for the next best thing while you are working I know sometimes we have to take a job we don’t like but try to spin it into a positive at least your working, or this is temporary etc. I love your title too because sometimes we do need to fake it. But faking it helps us make it real too. I really enjoyed reading this post. Thank you so much for joining in with share with me and I enjoyed getting to know more about you and your blog. I hope to see you again soon. (ps. I think you posted my badge in visual view not html view so it came out in code) lol 🙂

    • February 27, 2014 / 10:46 pm

      Aww thankyou Jenny! You have such lovely ideas for link ups, as a newbie I really appreciate them! Will definitely pop by next week too poppet . E x

  2. March 2, 2014 / 11:53 am

    What a lovely post, I think it is true though, I always feel happier when I see someone else smiling 🙂 x

    • March 2, 2014 / 10:40 pm

      Thankyou so much for popping in, and for your kind words. They have made me smile this evening! 🙂 E x

  3. November 19, 2014 / 7:00 pm

    Ah, I needed to read this today. Grumpy me has been taking over, time to put that smile back on 🙂

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