Little walks and little thoughts…

I think quite often (more than is probably healthy!) about the experiences that we try to create for our children.  I know I can get caught up in that self-doubt sometimes – the kind that makes me wonder if I’m a terrible parent for not arranging those piano/swimming/Ju Jitsu (slash other suitably character developing activity) lessons, or being completely on the ball with flash cards, test practice and their five-a-day.  We do our best, Mr M and I, but rarely do I feel on top of it all.

It has been a busy Summer, and all my good intentions of practicing phonics, providing vegetable based snacks only and spending 90% of our time outdoors seem to have fallen by the wayside.

Sometimes I think I’m my own worst enemy, setting these goals.  It’s the type A perfectionist in me. What can I say? I’m working on it. I’m trying to anyway.

I think at the heart of it all though, is a desire to create the very best childhood for our little three.  To strive to be at the centre of their memories.  To create those sunny day moments, even in the midst of the August drizzle.

I don’t want to give the impression of course, that I’m waking them up at 7am with the PVA and glitter – they would love it, but it’s a long Summer and my nerves, quite frankly, wouldn’t handle it.

Also – SLEEP.  I like to enjoy it when possible. 🙂

 

In our own way though, I really hope that this Summer has been one that they’ll remember fondly.  That the ice cream to veggie ratio won’t affect their growth too much, and the TV to schoolbooks one their intellect (though going by the gems that Noah comes out with at the moment I doubt it.  TV, you definitely have a most hallowed place in our home!) 🙂

And maybe, most of all, that they’ll know that I’ve loved it every bit as much too.

 

Some photos of our weekend just past.  Hooray for sunshine, and walks that end up being that tiny bit too long (wrong turn!) but that make your legs ache in a good way.  For ice cream vans that you happen upon just as someone takes a tumble off their scooter (Someone was looking out for us, I’m sure of it).  And time spent together, even though sometimes it’s fraught.

Because we’re, all of us, learning patience, and to be brave when faced with big dogs and bumble bees, stinging nettles and grazed knees.  This is life right now.

And this is character development too.

Family style.

 

 

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8 Comments

  1. August 19, 2015 / 8:08 am

    gorgeous pics lovely. I think we all feel like this at times, but your three are just gorgeous creatures inside and out. You and Mr M are doing a damn fine job xxx
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  2. August 19, 2015 / 9:01 am

    Beautiful pics Em, how wonderful to have all of that on your door step.
    I feel like this constantly, I’d promised myself we would practice out reading and writing for a little while each day and it’s been over a week since we looked at the books. I feel guilty when we have a lazy day at home, even though I know sometimes O really needs a nothing day. He pressure to create that perfect childhood can be immense but at the end of the day I have a little boy who is happy and and always wants to tell me how much he loves me. Hopefully it is those moments of childhood he will remember and treasure.
    Like Sian says, you’re doing an amazing job. xxx
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  3. August 19, 2015 / 9:18 am

    You are so right Emma, we put far too much pressure on ourselves to try to do the right thing all the time, and then endlessly question whether it was the correct decision. I don’t know how to stop it either, except to accept that all we can do is make each decision based on what we know and think right there and then. We do it with the best of intentions and to protect them (mine are older than yours so there is a lot of social media pressure and wanting more independence which is a whole other challenge). Fingers crossed when they are older they will remember that everything that was done was because of how much we love them. Lorraine x

  4. August 19, 2015 / 9:25 am

    Oh Emma this is so beautiful, from start to finish. I just love it. I think I am very similar to you – I almost set myself up to fail sometimes! Over the last 2 years, I think I’ve been on a bit of a journey to cut myself (and them) some slack. This summer has been far more relaxed and to be honest, as they’ve got older, it’s had to be. Surprisingly, I’ve embraced it and allowed them to veg in front of screens for half a day, as long as we’ve got outside at some point! I’ve not had all the weeks planned out with play dates and trips out. It’s been lovely. Your pics are stunning and you are doing an amazing job with your three. Most of all? They will know they are loved, beyond words. x x
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  5. Helen
    August 19, 2015 / 3:53 pm

    I think we all feel like that sometimes but as they say in these parts, we need to catch ourselves on!! I hate to see that awful hashtag #makingmemories as if you can plan for and manufacture the things that our kids will remember about their childhood. Life doesn’t work that way. It’s the incidentals of being part of a loving family they will cherish, not the micro-planned days. We are doing our best and that’s enough

  6. August 19, 2015 / 6:34 pm

    Gorgeous gorgeous gorgeous photos Em and I think we all feel like this from time to time. We do the best we can though. And I can 100% tell by your photos that your children are happy and loved- and ultimately that’s all that matters. x
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  7. August 19, 2015 / 10:28 pm

    Emma your photos are beautiful as always! Just the simplest of pleasures getting out and about as a family seriously it looks like you’ve got everything under control! It’s amazing how from the inside it can feel crazy yet from the outside (to me) it looks like you’ve got it all worked out! I think this is the case in a lot of circumstances! I’m a massive perfectionist also and my crazy plans for a summer never fully materialise because I put too much pressure on! It looks to me like you’ve had a fabulous summer, one the kids will remember for a long time and will have helped them develop in more ways than you realise x
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